I used to believe there was no way I could ever go to a bar and not drink and have fun. No way. Impossible. Now, I haven’t drank in over two years and would love to drink some seltzer and go to a bar with my friends. I am 100% certain I’d have a blast and have way more fun than I ever did drinking! I used to believe losing weight meant struggling hunger and my weak willpower. I lost 50 lbs in 6 months and was rarely hungry and I don’t use willpower at all.
Beliefs are repeated sentences in our head.
No one ever taught us to question them.
There was once a belief that the world was flat. Taking a ship around the world wasn’t possible. So no one tried to sail around the world until someone did. But, it was always possible. These circumstances weren’t until they were: Michael Phelps 6 gold medals, the 4-minute mile, internet. But they was always possible.
I could have stopped drinking much sooner and still had more fun than anyone. I could have been my natural weight sooner, too. It was possible because I’m living that now. What else is possible?
If you aren’t getting a result you want, you can be curious. You can question your beliefs that might be holding you back.
The 4 step process:
1)The lightbulb moment aka rainbows and unicorns: “Oh, I believed weight loss came down to being hungry and going to the gym. If I give up sugar and flour and eat healthy fats weight will come off without the cravings. No shit. I can’t wait to try this!”
2) The River of Misery: The excitement wears off and you might want to give up. Good. You are in between two beliefs. Most people give up here because you will fail. You will have drama. You will feel like quitting. The secret is to “act as if” you believe even when you don’t.
3) Starting to click: You are getting some payoff. Leaning more toward the actions of your new beliefs feels normal.
4) Autopilot: It’s just the way you are now. Sometimes you still get some weird thoughts like I did the other day. “PSSST: Hey, Cheryl. HEY! Yeah, you. Go get a donut.” But it doesn’t mean I do it or want to.
What will belief are you willing to question today? Let’s talk about it in person. Oh, just kidding. That was an old belief. Ugh.