Dorothy was an emotional child.
She was. She went on this big adventure after the Tornado struck to look for the Wizard when she could have just clicked her heels. We are all in Oz trying to get home to our Pre-Covid-19 world and we feel victimized. Through this feeling of being uncomfortable I’d like to tell you like Dorothy you have all the power.
You aren’t a victim of Covid-19. There I said it.
Emotional adulthood is a concept that everything you think, and feel is your responsibility. We didn’t ask for these terrible Covid circumstances but how we react, think and feel about it is completely up to us and that gives us all the power so click those ruby red slippers!
You are and always have been 100% responsible for my own emotions.
If everyone is responsible for their own feelings we are no longer responsible for making others happy either. Eating a salad and chicken instead of pizza can make others feel uncomfortable and I don’t have to take any of that in. How others feel when I eat a healthy meal isn’t my problem. It’s not my job to make anyone feel better and actually I can’t. Others feel the way they feel because of their thoughts and I can’t manage that anyway.
How others feel is not my responsibility.
When you believe what someone else does or doesn’t do cause your emotions you are constantly trying to control others and the outside world. It’s exhausting and doesn’t work. Delegating responsibility to someone else for how you feel makes you a dependent emotional child. Delegating responsibility to the outside world for how you feel is disempowering too. It’s always changing. Real freedom is when there can be a tornado or a pandemic and you know you can handle any emotion and can embrace being uncomfortable without the outside world having to change.
It sounds selfish and unreasonable. I get that. But, I have found when you meet your own needs and take full responsibility for how you feel you show up better for others. They can be who they are because you don’t have to control others to make you feel a certain way. You don’t have to change the outside world to feel better either. You get to choose.
The Twister didn’t cause Dorothy’s confusion and pain. Covid isn’t causing your pain either. Your thoughts and feelings about Covid are completely up to you. Knowing that you can think about it in a way that is useful is freedom. Knowing you can feel terrible and experience that vibration is freedom too. How can you think about Covid-19 in a way that serves you? We had the power all along.